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In many circles people will emphatically state “no drama please.”

However, life has its own rules of engagement such as…

Eat to Live

Kill to Eat

Adapt or Die

Big Fish, Little Fish

Survival of the Fittest

We don’t typically ask for what life gives us. Life often just “happens.” We often have no choice in the bigger matters of life despite being given free will in smaller matters. We are all forced to play by life’s rules or perish.

We see the “Law of the Jungle” at play in the world as well as in the Amazon.

Life’s goal is often to test and stimulate us in order to strengthen our resolve. The goal of life is to prevent us from becoming someone else’s lunch! Living in peace is a benchmark goal of almost every civilization. Even corporations take the struggle out of killing for food because they provide this service for humanity. Civilization enables us to enjoy a peaceful and calm meal at the dinner table. All we need to do is make the money to buy food and eat.

Personal drama is a different story.

Each of us had varying conditions we grew up in. Some survived the drama of poverty or lack while others endured the drama of family expectations. Both levels of drama have different pressures, stress, and difficulties that impact each generation of descendants. We come of age within our family dramas and are taught rules of engagement by our family of origin.

These multi-generational patterns cast a long shadow upon our daily lives.

As much as we think we are free—we are unconsciously attached to beliefs and patterns not of our own making. Our generational lineage sets up patterns that we come of age and develop within. This is what I am considering the family drama.

The good news is that you are here because those patterns—whether they be positive or negative—work for our survival. The bad news is these patterns are from a time and place that no longer exist. Often, we are living out our twenty-first-century lives with nineteenth-century family patterns. Our family drama is outdated, has no context in the here and now, but we are stuck within it because of the set of patterns that our ancestors established.

The key is being free enough to see these patterns and then navigate the treacherous waters of learning how to change the narrative for our generation and all subsequent generations.

Constellation healing is a modality that can help alert you to family drama in order to change it.

Making the best of your own life on your terms can be an arduous task.

Not everyone chooses to step out of the patterns and drama. It’s hard work!

The rewards of living your own life are great and the lessons may guide you to make different choices than those who came before. What you do and how you do it is up to you, but rest assured, you can break these patterns!

This is what personal empowerment is all about. You are in the driver’s seat of your life. The choice is yours. This is your time working the wheel steering it where you want it to go. Of course, it may be bumpy… but you have the power to change decades of patterns in your family lineage.

You were chosen to participate in your current role here on Earth. You can watch the drama unfold or create your own unique experience within it. It’s a win-win no matter what you choose. My major point is knowing that you are free to choose what you want to do with your precious all-too-short time here on Earth. The rest is up to you! The ‘wheel of life’ will move forward with or without you…your direction, your choice.

Namaste Gary Stuart 2021

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